When Should No Longer Fits
Career fulfillment often begins when we stop chasing expectations and start reconnecting with what truly matters to us…
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” — Rumi
We are constantly surrounded by messages about achievement; what success should look like, which roles matter most, and how fast we should be moving. Without even realizing it, those messages invite comparison and competition. Over time, they can pull you away from what you really want.
I know this because I lived it.
At one point in my career, I decided I should become a General Manager. What’s interesting is that I had always been clear (deep down) that the role didn’t truly appeal to me. Yet I followed the traditional path anyway. That choice led me to years of disillusionment and unhappiness, until I finally found my way back to what I genuinely loved: developing people and shaping meaningful HR strategy.
During that period, my personal anthem appeared to be “Cats in the Cradle” by Harry Chapin. I could see my relationship with my child beginning to mirror the lyrics, and it made me cry. Somewhere along the way, my sense of purpose had been lost in the expectations of what a “successful hotelier” was supposed to be.
During that time, I discovered coaching, although it would be years before I obtained my certification. What resonated with me then, and still does today, is this: coaching is about who you are becoming.
Like everything in nature, you change over time. What you seek evolves. What matters shifts. Becoming is often an identity change choosing to move toward what feels meaningful, and true for you, and shaking off the noise of who you think you should be.
Coaching offers a safe, confidential space to explore who you want to become, what needs to shift, and how those changes affect you and the people around you. There is no timeline attached to this work. Time isn’t the requirement, desire is.
If you truly have one life to live, the invitation is simple and profound; live it as who you are, not who others expect or want you to be.
So, who do you want to become?
If these words moved you, then I invite you to pause and sit with the question, “Who am I becoming?” Sometimes clarity happens when you begin to listen. When you are ready, I invite you to reach out to me and start the conversation.
Warmly,
Janette
As the Chinese proverb reminds us:“Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still.”
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